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Remember This When a Relationship Ends
This is your new mantra when you get stuck in a nostalgia spiral
I’ve found myself doing it a lot this week.
Last night, for instance, I scrolled through years of messages and images on my Facebook feed. The night before that, I had a dream involving an old college friend I no longer speak to.
In short, I’ve been in a nostalgia spiral, of sorts.
I’ve been thinking of past relationships and friendships, the minutiae of which is lost in the mists of time. The gist of it, though, is this: I’ve been mourning people and relationships no longer in my life. And it hurts.
What Could Have Been
Maybe this is you, too?
Maybe you hold onto past relationships longer than you should, living in the past and regretting what could have been.
For me, the hardest relationships to let go of are the ones where there has been an abundance of shared history.
New friendships absolutely have their merit, but there’s a magical, hard-to-replicate quality of an old, been-there-through-everything friendship.
The friend who was there during a bad breakup, the one who you endured your freshman year of college with, the one…
